Clothes minded

“Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.” -Oscar Wilde

So this may seem shallow and stupid, but today’s post is about clothes and fashion. Lucky is still a chick at heart and sometimes she feels the need to let it show. I’ve noticed that recently the new fashion for girls my age is ridiculously familiar, and it really annoys me. Why, you ask. Allow me to explain myself.

I was out shopping the other day and came to the sudden realization that all the things I used to wear in high school are now cool and stylish. Now these are the things I used to wear and get made fun of for wearing them. I used to wear kimono sleeve shirts, and I was ridiculed because I looked like I had wings on my arms. Now they are cool and considered cute. Too bad I tossed most of mine when I got tired of them. I’m pretty sure I could still wear some of them. I used to wear zip up sweatshirts all the time. And even pushed the sleeves up. That got me picked on for looking like a grungy dork. I still wore them for the sheer comfort factor. Now they are in style and people think I wear them because I want to be cool and trendy. I’m not a trend follower at all, but that’s my label if I keep dressing the way I do.

No, Lucky isn’t going to change her look because style dictates it. She’ll just face facts and be herself.

While on this subject I have another topic that gets to me. Again this is brought on by some experiences I had with shopping. I was in the store and noticed these two little girls, maybe eleven or so, and was appalled that their parents let them leave the house dressed the way they were dressed. They were wearing clothes that I’ve seen on my fellow college students and even then I find them unattractive. Tiny mini skirts with leggings under them, by tiny I mean so short that one false move shows everything. Shorts so short that they might as well not have them on at all and tank tops that showed most of their mid drifts. And I actually saw one of them putting on bright red lipstick. Clearly the message we are sending kids is way off kilter somewhere. They want clothes that say things like ‘juicy’, ‘2 hot 4 U’, ‘your boyfriend thinks I’m cute’, and various other phrases that ten to eleven year old girls should not even know. Why don’t people think for a change. I want to scream and then start smacking people when I see these little girls dressed in clothes a high school or college girl would wear. It’s just ridiculous.

And a final note which may or may not be offensive to some one who reads this blog. What it so sexy about a guy wearing girl’s pants? Honestly, I don’t find the fact a guy can squeeze himself into a pair of tiny girl’s jeans remotely attractive. In fact it disturbs me in a few ways. Serious damage could be done to the human body if you do that to it. Does that even occur to them? Or is that what makes them so hardcore? Me, I just want to look at them and shout ‘hey, get the hell out of my pants’ at the top of my lungs. It is not flattering in the least on a guy to see him shoved into clothes that are way too tight. It’s slightly repulsive.

Well thats the end of my little rant on clothing and style. If you were in any way offended, oh well, I do not write my blog to be politically correct or fuzzy. I tell the truth.

Be patient with those who give advice

Once again it appears my post 42 things girls should do for guys has brought out a question. I shall now attempt to give a bit of advice on relationships. I don’t often dispense advice often because advice is something that should be given cautiously. [Disclaimer: Lucky just had yet another Lord of the Rings, elven moment]

Question:“I’m a Junior in high school, and I’ve had quite a few relationships by now. I consider myself quite experienced in having boyfriends. But I now have a boyfriend whom has never had a girlfriend before. He too is a junior. It’s only been a couple of weeks, but I feel things are going so slow. He’s shy and the relationship is so awkward. I have talked to him about it, and he is aware of it, but things are only changed slightly. My friends say I should be making the first moves. …Help???”

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Sandy,
Sometimes guys can be just as shy as girls and according to the Spoon, my beloved boyfriend, it’s often due to being nervous. And since this guy has never had a girlfriend before it’s going to be awkward, he’s probably as nervous as a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs. New relationships are often awkward because they are just starting out and you have to figure things out. If it’s only been a couple of weeks give it time to work itself out. Honestly, you can’t expect instant results, hon, they don’t just happen, at least for the most part.

Now onto you making the moves. Here’s the deal, and be prepared for a little blunt honest advice from Lucky, get some guts and act. It is completely appropriate for girls to make the first move every now and again. This is not the 50s or earlier where making the first move brands you slutty and stupid. Initiate something and see where it goes. You can grab his hand, you can be the one that kisses him first, honestly wherever you are wanting to take this, you can start going first. Talking doesn’t always help because he may know that you feel awkward and want him to make a move, but he may not know what to do. You said you were his first girlfriend so, take the lead, it will help you both. And keep talking, don’t just shut down because you get frustrated.

Perhaps if you start making the first moves he’ll loosen up and things will get better. If he sees that you are comfortable moving forward and sees where you want to go, then I think it’s possible that he will feel more comfortable moving in that direction as well. I’m no expert, but that’s my two cents. Talk to him some more and get the courage to act. You are just as guilty of making things slow if you don’t make a move either. Communication is key, and with a little work things just might work out.

Just remember Lucky is no relationship expert, just a college junior with some experience. Relationships are trial and error and there are no guarantees. I certainly wish you the best of luck.

Lucky